It would seem counter-intuitive for a male to join a group called “1 Million Moms Against Gun Control” especially as the group itself is centered around a female point of view with an emphasis on mothers. Their posts have a definitive female slant, their web store carries mainly products geared towards females, their gear reviews are based on a feminine perspective (such as holsters for the female form)… let’s face it this is a woman’s group. Those are exactly the reasons why I thought it was important for me to contribute here and lend my support.
I was a police officer for 10 years. That time was spent as a patrol officer and later as a K9 officer and ERT Team member. I was on the road, I was out amongst em, I have seen things in my career that would make most sane people curl up in a ball in the corner and twitch until they fell asleep- which is when the nightmares would start. I have seen firsthand the violence and depravity that humans are capable of up close and personal. I didn’t read about it on a Facebook page or Twitter feed, I didn’t watch it on a news program; I have walked around pools of blood and have had the smell of death in my uniform. I have held victims as they let out screams that sear your soul and you carry with you forever. I have notified parents or children that their loved ones were gravely injured or dead and seen the look of abject horror in their eyes as they process what I am telling them.
Many of those times I was responding to a 911 call from a woman. It was their blood. It was their body. It was their scream. These women were someone’s daughter, someone’s mother, someone’s sister, someone’s wife or girlfriend. Almost every time I got there too late to make a difference (I can recall 3 instances in my entire career where I was able to respond before an attacker went “hands on” with their victim). While I would outrun my headlights, pushing my cruiser to its limits and beyond, my response times were invariably 4-8 minutes depending on where I was in my patrol sector. If you don’t think that is a lot of time, look at your wristwatch or start the stopwatch on your phone. Let it run 6 minutes. Just stare at it- don’t do anything until those 6 minutes are up- then tell me 6 minutes isn't a lot of time for help to arrive. We want to be there in time, we risk our lives to be there in time, but the reality is by the time we get there our jobs are normally limited to recording the circumstances of your misfortune and (hopefully) apprehending the perpetrator.
Not every call from a woman resulted in her being assaulted, robbed, raped or killed though. The one common denominator in every case where the intended victim was either unharmed or only slightly injured was a firearm. No- the firearm was not a magic wand and there were cases of armed women being injured and/or killed but in every case (other than the aforementioned 3) where the intended victim walked away, the woman had a gun.
1MMAGC promotes the concept that it is better for Moms to TAKE action than it is to demand it. 1MMAGC promotes the idea that it is better to have a firearm handy to deal with a threat to their lives & the lives of their family than it is to call someone with a firearm and wait 4-8 minutes for them to show up and deal with the threat for them. 1MMAGC promotes the idea that a woman is better off explaining to me why the tweaker is shot in her hallway than for me to try and catch the tweaker after he ripped her apart. 1MMAGC promotes the concept that women can and SHOULD take an active role in their well-being and in the defense of themselves and their family.
I have seen firsthand, over the course of a decade, how well those concepts work.
That is why I joined.
- Mr. Decker
*Note, image above is distorted due to current employment.
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